Moving can be a challenging time for people of all ages, but as a teenager, it can be even more life-changing. Emotions and hormones are changing and developing and for a teen, it could feel like you’re changing everything about their life. They may feel uprooted or feel like you’ve taken the foundation out from underneath them – especially if the move is far away. Here are some helpful tips on how to help your teenager deal with an upcoming move.
Tip #1: Give them time to prepare.
Give your teen plenty of warning and time to process the move that’s coming up. Communicating about it well in advance will be helpful. It might be tempting to hold off on breaking the news to her/him, but in the end this could be detrimental, because they may feel like it’s been “sprung” on them with little time to contemplate what changes will need to happen. Keep communication open and let them know various details about the move and let them do some research on the new neighborhood or city so they can get an idea of what it will be like.
Tip #2: Give them some input.
Allowing your teen some input on the process will help them take ownership of it a little bit and it could also help them get excited about the prospect of change. Consider what your teen has to say about neighborhoods and schools, explore places in town that are popular, and make sure that their voice is heard. Allowing them to express their feelings about it will not only help them deal with the upcoming change that’s about to happen, but it will also help them contribute to decisions that may need to be made. Whether it’s decisions on neighborhood or just picking out the styles/designs in their new room, your teen wants to be heard.
Tip #3: Give them opportunities to stay in touch with old friends.
Goodbyes are not always easy. The teenage years are immersed in building friendships and one of the hardest parts of moving for your teen might be that you may not ever see your friends again. Encourage your teen to stay in touch through social media, phone calls and texts, or if you will still be within driving distance, let them know that you are committed to helping them stay in touch by driving them back to the area to visit.
Tip #4: Talk positively.
Your teen will pick up a lot about your feelings, stress, and attitude about the move, sometimes without you even knowing it. So if you want them to react as positively as possible, you’ll need to talk about the move in a positive and encouraging way.
Moving can be difficult, but communication throughout the process can help greatly. New memories are waiting to be made and a new chapter in your new home will be an exciting time.